This story is too good not to share. It’s about an American friend of mine and a Burmese guy she ran into while both were living in New York, around 1990.
First, you have to know that 25 years ago things got pretty bad in Burma. The so-called “Four Eights” protests on 8/8/88 ended with a government crackdown; thousands were massacred; many student activists fled the country.
One of those exiles—call him Myat—met my friend—call her Tina—in Central Park. He was lonely, missing his wife and baby back in Burma. She was struggling, a single mom whose ex-marriage to a Thai husband had not much to show for it besides a two-year-old. The two of them became good friends. Myat babysat. Tina helped him navigate the process for bringing his family to the U.S.
Six years later, when Tina was back in Bangkok with an American husband who had formally adopted her daughter, now-green-card-holding Myat learned that his immigration petition had been approved. Just one snag: Burmese women weren't being allowed passports by the junta. This prohibition was their when-you-got-a-hammer-everything-looks-like-a-nail response to the embarrassing revelation that a few Burmese female sex workers had turned up in Japan.
Myat’s wife, Su, left anyway. She and her son crossed over to Thailand with a day worker's pass and hid out in a small Thai town. Somehow Tina tracked her down, despite having no language in common. Together they went to Bangkok's airport with legal U.S. immigration papers and fake passport. A Thai official spotted the fake immediately, but Tina argued for an hour that he should look the other way, given that America was essentially solving his problem. Amazingly, she convinced him. Su and her young son got on the plane, speaking neither English nor Thai, and soon were reunited with Myat. The family managed to do just fine in the States for nearly 20 years.
Then their outlook changed, as outlooks tend to do. Myat had heard about other ’88-generation students beginning to return. He and Su realized that the U.S. wasn't the country where they hoped to finish out their lives.
Eleven months on, they are pleased with their decision to come back to Myanmar (their son stayed on in New York, where he has a good job). They have purchased a house in the town where they both grew up, and are beginning to contribute to their community in countless ways. Recently it occurred to them that the person who would most appreciate what they’re trying to do with this life chapter was Tina.
They invited her, along with her now-24-year-old daughter, to visit them for the first time on Burmese soil. I was lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time, so I came along this past Wednesday for the overnight. What a reunion! What a swirling mix of emotions!
Though Tina, Myat, and Su have never lost touch, and their children have sometimes flown across the U.S. to spend time together, during this meetup it felt as if they hadn’t seen each other since New York. They told story after story about the first days of their friendship. We ate and joked and ate and walked and ate and admired the distinctive light of Myanmar’s delta region. Myat eventually hopes to start up a newspaper there; in the meantime he is volunteering with various groups and teaching English. He proudly introduced us to a few of his students.
He also explained that to support education in the nearby villages, he and Su have turned the second floor of their home into a kind of hostel for kids who come into town to take certain exams. On the night we were there, nearly 50 people were staying under the same roof, almost all of them teenage girls.

What Myat didn’t mention was that the neighborhood teenage boys have figured out this arrangement. Groups of four or five of them turn up in front most nights. With their guitars and fine voices, they serenade the girls from the street.
So the fun reunion just kept getting better and better. The boys’ harmonies lulled us into hopeful dreams about the past and future.